2019-03-15 / Chaplain's News

It is springtime and love is in the air

CHAPLAIN’S CORNER
Chaplain (Maj) Tim Stiers
Cyber Protection Brigade

Generally people want a happy and successful marriage. Good pre-marriage counseling is a key to happiness in marriage. The Bible reminds us, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18, ESV).

Pre-marriage counseling is required in order to use a chapel on post for a wedding. An expectant groom and future bride receive a discount on the cost of a Georgia Marriage License when presenting pre-marriage counseling documentation.

Good pre-marriage counseling may offer some type of personality inventory and analysis. These inventories may consist of the Taylor Johnson Temperament Analysis (TJTA), the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), or the Five Love Languages. The analysis opens a wide range of discussion about one’s self and the person with whom they expect to spend the rest of their life.

Subjects discussed during counseling contain individual histories and future thoughts on these topics: faith, family, holidays, blended families, health, priorities, money, time, work, sex, coping practices, & life goals.

If interested in the use of a chapel for a wedding, visit each one and see which one sparks the most interest.

Each chapel has its own Officer in Charge (OIC) and Non-commissioned Officer in Charge (NCOIC). The requester must agree to any specific restriction specific to the building.

The sponsoring Unit Ministry Team (UMT) signs and submits the Chapel Request Form.

Remember to include enough time to decorate, rehearse, conduct the ceremony, and clean-up.

The wedding ceremony is discussed in counseling. There are many options as to the formality and motif of the ceremony.

If one choses to stray from the traditional vows, verify they include similar concepts: unto death, sickness and health, and richer or poorer. The ceremony can be quite expensive, but it can be just as special while saving the exuberant cost.

Have a good plan for photography. Professional photographers are usually very proud of their work and expect a hefty remuneration. You might want to ask more than one person to help with photography if you don’t go with a professional. Remember you only get one opportunity for those special memories.

Gentlemen, the wedding is about the Bride! Do what she wants or you may live to regret your actions.

Some prefer a wedding planner while others choose to coordinate the events themselves. The only really important food for all weddings is the wedding cake. Get a nice one and enjoy feeding your new spouse in front of the world.

The sky is the limit for the rest of the food options. Some will have a nice rehearsal dinner for the wedding party participants. Again, one must decide how much to spend for the meal.

Coordinate a clean-up crew after the newlyweds depart the location. This time might serve as a good opportunity for the two families to get to know each other. Please do not let the new in-laws discover their membership on the clean-up crew as someone hands them a broom.

Pre-marriage counseling sets one up for success. Scripture refers to the strength of two people in agreement, “And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him – a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12, ESV).

The key to this passage is strength rests in cords wound together.

Remember when you are considering to say, “I do,” seek out some good pre-marriage counseling and make certain both participants plan to remain committed “until death do you part.”

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